Reflecting Joy®
Come as You Are. Return As You Are Born To Be.
About Us
Courses, Community & Experiences for Black Women
Reflecting Joy is more than a community—it’s a sacred space where Black women come to reclaim their power, heal deeply, and rise boldly. Here, growth isn’t just encouraged—it’s inevitable.
Reflecting Joy isn’t just a community—it’s a sanctuary for Black women ready to reclaim their wholeness, rewrite their stories, and rise. Rooted in core values of authenticity, connection, and joy, it’s a space where faith meets freedom and healing moves beyond recognition into action. Here, we honor the whole person—mind, body, and spirit—blending African-centered principles, spiritual practices, and holistic tools to nurture joy as the foundation for growth. Using the E.G.O. model, we help you break free from patterns that keep you stuck so you can step into your purpose with clarity and intention. At Reflecting Joy, you’re invited to embrace every part of who you are. Whether through classes, intensives, or retreats, we create spaces where healing is sacred, growth is celebrated, and freedom is always within reach.
Latest Offerings
The Crafting Retreats & Intensives class is your blueprint for creating life-changing experiences that inspire growth and leave a lasting impact. Whether you’re planning your first retreat or refining your approach, this 2.5-hour session gives you the tools, strategies, and confidence to design events that truly deliver.
"How to Stop Self-Sabotage" isn’t just about breaking bad habits—it’s about uncovering the patterns holding you back and rewriting the narrative. In this class, you’ll learn practical tools to silence your inner critic, step out of survival mode, and start building the life you actually want.
The Reflecting Joy Collective is a sacred gathering of Black women committed to healing, growth, and reclaiming their power. Through classes, experiences, and retreats, we create spaces where faith meets action, stories are rewritten, and joy becomes the foundation for transformation.
About Melissa
Melissa Ifill, also known as Iya Oñi Soi, is a powerhouse coach, retreat leader, and community builder who helps Black women shatter self-sabotaging cycles, rewrite their stories, and step boldly into lives of freedom, purpose, and impact. With over 20 years as a licensed therapist and wellness coach, Melissa blends clinical expertise with spiritual practices to create spaces where healing is more than a concept—it’s a call to action.
As the lead facilitator of the Reflecting Joy® Collective Melissa curates sacred spaces for growth, connection, and transformation. Her work is grounded in two transformational frameworks—the E.G.O. Model and the A.W.A.K.E.N. Method—designed to help women uncover the patterns keeping them stuck, align their actions with their vision, and build lives rooted in clarity and intention. Through powerful classes, sacred community spaces, and immersive retreats and intensives, Melissa equips women with the tools to heal deeply, grow unapologetically, and rise fully into their purpose.
Melissa’s impact reaches across the U.S. and internationally, with features in Essence Magazine, Parents Magazine, Therapy for Black Girls Podcast, and Love and Hip Hop Miami. Whether in a classroom, community circle, or retreat setting, Melissa’s work is a rallying cry for women to reclaim their joy, rewrite their stories, and lead lives they don’t need to escape from.
What They Say
Testimonials
Finding Melissa was such a blessing that has changed the course of my life. The work we did addressed my past trauma, gave me words and wisdom to see the manifestations of things that just no longer served me. I also started tapping into some big dreams that felt impossible before
Kathy C.
I am so grateful for Melissa. What I loved and appreciated most was having the space to also talk about my spiritual journey throughout our sessions because I have always longed for that in the previous therapeutic settings I have entered.
Meagan C.
Working with Melissa has been an absolute game-changer. She possesses an innate ability to create a safe and supportive, warm space, allowing me to delve deep into my mindset and confront the obstacles that were hindering my progress which was my own trauma.
Sandy B.